He's on His way..

Well like I said yesterday, I better calm down before Thomas tries to make his debut? Well, I've been trying to calm down and resting, but I keep having these killer back pains every 5-8 minutes like someones stabbing me or poking me in the back and twisting then letting go. and it only feels better if I'm sitting on the "loo" if you know what I mean! I know TMI . so this has been going on for some time now, and since I have a high threshhold for pain, how do I know if I'm in labor or not? does it get worse than this? I feel like an ass calling my family and asking " how do you know if you're in labor?" so I call any way , and I get the answer" You'll know" thanks just the answer I was looking for- next time I'll call my doctor-theyr didnt give me the answers I was looking for- juust alot of good lucks- They meant well,but I was in too much pain- I really want my mom at this moment an dwas pissed no one could help out." :rolleyes. So Tom and I decde to go to the Hospital and bring my stuff just in case. they check me out, say i'm 5 cm, and tell me to go home and come back when the pain is more severe. More severe? you mean it gets worse? Greaaaat! Okayy.. I go home and try and get some rest.I manage to sleep about 4 hours, when that shooting pain comes back again this time every about 5 -6 minutes only sharper and I find it very hard to walk- like I'll be walking and I gotta hold onto my bed and breath my lamaze like I've never breathed before! So I hail Tom and say screw the nurses we're going back! this is severe enough for me!! So we get there and they want to send us home AGAIN but mentioned we could walk around the wing for a while if we like which was fine with me. so they put me in a gown and let me walk the floor until I was dialated a little more- How much pain did they want me in until he could be delivered?Did they want him at a 3 and me screaming in pain to convince them I was ready??!Finallly they check me and I'm dialated enough where the nurses can hook me up to a monitor and let the fun begin...

Construction Headaches

As we visit the construction site more and more of our house it's starting to come together. The last couple of times we visit the site, they just had the rebarr in the ground to pour the cement for the basement, them poured the basement walls, then we went back another time, and they had the first and second floor up and were working on the roof. Today we drove by to check on the house and all appeared to up- the roof was up and papered,windows were in, door was on,stairs were in inside structure was framed , it was a weekend and no one was around, so we decided to take a peek inside - it WAS afterall OUR house- after checking the outside though we were like hey.. we noticed they didn't FULLY paper the roof for shingling- like some paper had ripped off on the garage, but they were going to shingle anyway? NO NO NO!uh uh! That won't fly at all!Hmm, what other things are they cheating on while we're not there that they think they can slip by on us?..lets see..well for one thing the house isn't even wrapped under the siding, there goes our heating bill in the winter and our A/C bill in the summer - strike 2~ anything else? There's a hole in the kithen floor where someone appeared to have dropped a nailgun through the floor and left a foot long hole in the floor! Did they replace the plywood floor? Nooo- they put a piece of wood from the basement and covered the hole from the bottom and nailed the hole covered shut! Now what beer drinking construction headed fool thought that plan was gonna fly and go unnoticed??!!*brainpain- Is lumber that hot of a commodity that you couldnt just go to your house nextdoor of the same model youre making of the same floor plan and borrow their wood for the floor and replace the floor and get new wood for THAT kitchen floor?I mean cmon!UGH! So we decide to see what's upstairs before going 4 steps up the stairs and noticing up the stairs that in the wall are like 25 nails nailed into ONE SPOT in the wall. Now , is this ABSOLUTELY necessary? You're building someone's firt home here! Not playing "how many nails do I got in my gun"! In my wall no less! Oh I'm pissed! So let's add it up here, My house isn't wrapped, when it rains enough over the years, my garage is partially gonna rot, I have nails in my walls for no reason, I have a hole in my floor that was carelessly repaired, I haven't even looked downstairs yet but I tell you what I am NOT a happy homeowner right now!I want my deposit back and fuming! So Tom Is gonna tell the Construction co.off and tell the realtors there's a there's a real problem and we need to get our deposit back.I've never seen such Shoddy contruction for the money we paid to have this house built! We could buy a house off the market for the price we paid to have this house built!I better calm down, because I'm starting to feel crampy and it was getting more and more difficult to make it down the stairs of the house today like Thomas was ready to make his debut..Oh boy, just chill it's cool...Don't want a home delivery, That's for pizza's...

Ahh December-Christmas & Coffee shops

Ahh December, my favorite time of year. the crispness in the air, the bustle in the crowd for everyone is freaking out trying to buy that extra special gift for that extra special someone, My work? They're REALLY startin to get on my nerves because they're lookin to find ways to make me quit because they can't fire me- because they know I'll sue their Butts for firin' a pregnant woman at christmas time in her third trimester no less! I'm sorry My ankles are blown up like balloons and I have to sit on a stool with my feet raised and I need my snacks in the drawer- to keep my nutrition up.. - you want me to go on leave at Christmas time and leave you shorthanded thats fine with me! Other than thatI'm doin the best I can helpin out here! Customers don't seem to mind! they like me and I like them- the nice ones anyway! As or home, We decided it was time to look into getting out of the whole apartment deal and getting a house so we're having one built. theyre doing an ok job-3 br 2 bath-2 story with basement very spacious for what we need and a good deal- 250k in this area! and close to Tom's work? I say we scored! we get to design the floorplan to our tastes, and decorate it the way we like,textures, tilings,rugs, countertop, the works- should be fun , and should be done by the time the baby comes.As far as the baby coming - I cant believe I have only 2 more months left! whered the time go? Got Tom's company Christmas Party-to go to It's week or so early, but I guess its too stressfull to do it at christmastime- family members and all for christmas dinnerand all understandable - Everone going in and out of town- I know I am! Ahh I love going to See my family for Christmas- I see them like ONCE a year IF that! not fair- I miss them soo much! -I always look forward to seeing them whaenever I get the chance and hate it when I have to leave.As for shopping again, Have I mentioned how I can't go anywhere NEAR a tobacco shop or coffee store or if they pave the road my stomach just wants to jump out of my my mouth? what's the deal with that? so when I go shopping I smell all these awesome smells in the mall, then BRRRRRR- I wanna hurl! COFFEE SHOP! about face ! tobbacco shop! Run for it ! then this IS the d.c. metro area - theres ALWAYS road construction goin on - its 95 % cars and highways for God's sake ! paving's a must! at this time I'm forever covering my mouth ! please let this sensation end soon! UGGH! Nature can play some cruel jokes on the body I tell ya!That's one thing about this pregnancy I won't miss when it's over that's for sure! everything else , I don't seem to mind.:)

October Getaway

We're now in October, and I figured I'd go visit my Dad up in the catskills for a couple weeks after this nightmare has subsided and my heart has healed a little bit. I don't think it will ever QUITE heal completely, as I will forever hold Nicholas deep in my heart and alwayds regard him as my son even though he never got to be born full term-he still was a living being in my eyes-and therefore was a part of me and therefore was my son in my eyes born or unborn. Dad works at the Nursery by his house - fitting as he has the greenest thumb I know! And they are having this Halloween haunted house {or Greenhouse} you might call it where the employees all dress up and make one of the greenhouses a haunted house- sounds cute. Dads dressing up as the scream monster - and there's a Halloween party at his friends house we're invited to - sounds like fun. Just what I need to take my mind off. I missed him so much too- I talk to him on the phone often, but its just not the same- I'm going for a couple weeks so It should be real fun. I can't wait to see him. We get along so great- Like a couple of girls at a sleepover..LOL

My Baby Has Downs!

I got the results of my Alfa Feta Protein results back, and it seems that one of My boys {Nicholas} has Downs Syndrome- [trisomy 21} The other {Thomas} is fine the placentas are in two different areas, so the doctor's are talking about a selective reduction. Oh, this is terrible! How can they make me make such a decision?! apparently, the baby also had a heart condition that happens with Downs babies often- they develop a septal valve problem, and also they noticed Nicholas' heart was pumping backwards-where even if they do open heart surgery on him as soon as he was born, his survival rate is slim. So Thomas would grow up and never know his twin brother. This is so sad. I have to make this decision and I have never cried so hard in all my life - thank goodness Tom was at work that way I could let it all out. If the neighbors heard me, { which I'm sure they did} I'm sure they must have thought I 'm some manic depressant who needed to be taken to the looney bin I was crying so hard! I'm going to lose my baby and he isnt even born yet! I soo badly dont want to do the procedure! I have a choice, to NOT do it,and one day I said yes to do it, then the next day to NOT do it, then yes , then no, Then was threatened that our marriage would not survive if I don't go through with it- Oh yeah - that helps- bring on the salt! reason finally set in and I know I have to make the right choice and not the selfish one - I don't want my son to grow up in pain and suffering with countless possible operations and possibly not even making it past his first month so we'll spare him and decide to go through with the procedure. he might not live anyway because we found he has only 3 chambers to his heart - even with surgery - we don't know how that can be fixed so he'll be better off in heaven with God and I can be at peace with that knowing he'll be looking down on us keeping us safe and being our Lil Guardian angel. The procedure date is on September 20th in Philadelphia at 11:30. Lord please forgive me.

What The?? Ohh Nooo!

Tell me this isn't happenning! I went to use the bathroom and there was this bright red bleedingthat just started running down my leg as I was trying to make it to the bathroom-I was like tryinfg to wake Tom up going "babe", "Babe" and he's dead asleep- mumbling "mmm?" I said " I can't stop bleeding! 'He's like wha! and that woke him up! and so it was off to the hospital to figure out what was going on. and of course the took forever getting me checked it I'm like Hello? bleeding pregnant woman over here? canwe just get me checked out before something really goes wrong? If not already?"I didn'y have any pain or cramping, I thought I was miscarrying, but this was after my third month , but who knows/ Maybe one could be happening anyway- with my body- its so messed up-I wouldn't put it past it-I had a miscarriage just last year anyway - maybe I was having another only milder- cause that one hurt like hell!. hours later, after checking me out thoroughly and me feeling like I lost a quart of blood , it turned out I have a hematoma in the anterior aspect of my uterus- the babies are fine- they has no clue what was goin on and were unharmed. Thank you God! Doctors orders-rest the pelvis- whatever that means- guess n sex or whatever or anything having to do with that area, stop work- fine with me! people are buttnuggets at my work anyway! and plenty of bedrest-sounds cool- what ever I need to do to make sure these babies arrive safe and healthy you got it. and Follow up with doctor on 8/25.
8/25-----just spotting no bleeding- just old blood keep up with bedrest just in case- other than that everything looks great - I was a good little patient - Thank goodnessthat nightmare's over!

Dum Dum De Dum!

Yesterday Tom and I got Married ! I am 3 months pregnant with twins, and just starting to show a little teeny bit but not alot-man do I get hungry! I'm eating us outta house and home! Everyone says you get tired real fast, but I'mnot so tired - maybe its all the oj I'm drinking like mad thats keeping my energy in check! I'm so excited though! and another cool thing , BOOBS! I actually have boobs ! I went from a AA cup and am already a b! I wonder if theyll get bigger...LOL Anyway, Tom and I didn't go for a big lavish wedding, since we decided I had been married before , and went down that road already , and he's not into big giant affairs, and we have a new baby{babies- did I mention we were having twins?I STILL can't believe that!} coming soon that we have to prepare for and save for , we found it smarter to save the money for that - nursery, furniture, formula, etc.. - So we got married by the Justice of the peace in Vienna, Va. And His Friend Tony was our witness and Photographer. No Honeymoon either.we'll do something nice though, go out to dinner or something. But boy was it hot! An August wedding is definitly a killer! We couldn't wait to get our shorts and tanktops back on again! So it's official, I am now Mrs. Thomas Higdon, the mother of his children- I guess wishes really DO come true!

And It's a Big Fat +!!

Well, I got back from the store with the test, and I'm scared to death to take it., but took it, and waited an extra five minutes to look at it, and Boy was it Blue!! And an hour os so later Tom called me From Texas to check up on me to say hello and see what's up, and I say coyly "nooothinnn"he says "tell mee"I said " well, I haven't been feelin myself lately and well, I decided to take a pregnancy test, and well, it kinda came back positive"he said " oh really!?" not mad , just more excited and shocked kinda in a way more than anything. like Okayy..so from then on we agreed we were gonna get married soon and made an appointmet with the O/B and got the ball rolling.The next appointment the O/B had was July 11th , so that's when we go.

Feelin' Funky

Ok, so lately I've been feeling a little under the weather. A little sluggish, a little tired. a bit hungry too. But don't know for what. I could be what. I could be coming down with something, who knows? maybe my period's coming.When WAS my period last? NOT GOOD if I can't remember that! Tom's in Texas right now so I can't ask him- He wouldn't know anyway- not that he would make it a point to remember such things-or would WANT to! Hmmm... maybe I should get a pregnancy test to check it out just to make sure...I CAN"T be pregnant! my parents would KILL me! my mom would have a stroke as religious as she is! Well that would be something... all those starss I've wished on to be Tom's wife and to be the mother of his children and it finally comes true? Only one way to find out...